Not everyone can succeed in education. You may not have imagined that one day, you could leave school (there could be an excuse or you may be forced to leave). The resulting feeling would inevitably be depression, but you are neither the first nor the last to face this struggle about a university plan that does not proceed as desired. That situation could have just happened: you feel lost and a failure and just isolate yourself in room, avoiding contact with others. Even as such, you should encourage yourself, however, by reflecting that there are many famous entrepreneurs out there enjoying their business, owners and employees who have not graduated from college or university but still create a fulfilling path in life. We ourselves overcome many obstacles to stand up as successes. This is the reason I chose this topic, “Failure: a Measure of Success.”
Despair is a state of no-mind that does not want to pursue a goal because of difficulty, pressure, or spiritual accidents.
- FAILURE HAS A VALUE
Avoid thinking that you can succeed without having the experience of failure. This will train your mind to think that failure is the precursor to success.
Every time you stumble, you will take a big step on the path of exploring your potential. Failure has another value: the ability to make you stronger and more resilient. So never be afraid of failure. You will never get close to victory if you don't experience a setback. Every time you stumble or fail, remember one thing: you're getting closer to your potential dreams. Learn to stand up after failures.
In today's society, we see that there are some schools, classes, companies, and colleges in which students do not have good enough grades become depressed under family pressure (autistic people living in the dark shadows) and finally kill themselves.
Dr. Sam Collin (the author of Radio Heaven: One Woman's Journey to Grace) said that we should appreciate failures and see them as necessary stepping stones to success. Even this female author also advises her readers as well as the audience to try losing a job once. You would gain vivid insights and experiences that you would never have gained if you were never unemployed. This motivates you to find what you really want, the work you really love.
Here are six things you can do to help your mood recover faster and get your life back on track:
- DO NOT LET FAILURE MAKE YOU LOSE FAITH
Most people don't know how to get up after a setback because they've lost faith in themselves. There is a big difference if someone says, "I have failed" instead of "I am a failure." The person who fails will always learn how to learn lessons from his failure and keep moving forward. Failure does not change the person's will. On the contrary, if someone claims, "I am a failure," then he will not have hope for the good.
There is a folk sentence: "Failure is the mother of success." Success and failure: these two aspects seem to be opposites, but they always are in balance. Knowing to rise after failure is a kind of success, and after success, if one lets it slip away easily, the result is failure. Therefore, train yourself to think of failure as a sign of success.
If you have doubts about your ability and worry you about to fail, it's time to stop doubting. Making mistakes is like breathing in or out: if you are alive, you will never be able to avoid mistakes. Therefore, learn how to live with it and keep moving forward.
- LET FAILURE SHOW YOU ERRORS
Sometimes failure will signal that it's time to change your direction. If you keep going, you will hit your head against the wall. So maybe it's time to go back and find a way out. If you follow a turn, it may be the main road. Regardless of successive failures, as long as you keep your dreams and desire burning, keep moving forward.
If you continue to fail but still want to stand up and continue, then let failure guide you. When the doors close before you, don’t stand in one place wondering why you can't open any doors. Take a look around and find another open door. Maybe a door is opening right next to you without you noticing.
- THE FIX IS TO KEEP YOUR SENSE OF HUMOR
When you fail, laugh out loud. When things go well, it's easy to smile, but when things get worse, it's even more important. Nothing can improve your health more than smiling. It helps you dispel fatigue and stress and makes your mistakes quickly disappear into oblivion. When you make mistakes on your quest for success, keep a playful and optimistic attitude.
- TURNING FAILURE INTO EXPERIENCE
To succeed, cultivate the ability to learn from your mistakes. The change in cognitive processes will be a turning point, a stepping stone to help you unlock your potential. The willingness to learn from failure and the ability to overcome it are inseparable. If you stop learning, you will repeat past mistakes again and again. But things will be better if every time you stumble, you stand up and draw valuable lessons.
- DON'T LET FAILURE FAIL YOU
When embarking on a successful journey, you will surely encounter many problems. You will give up and continue to fall, immersed in failure, or you will stand up with your own feet as quickly as possible. Many do not do so. They collapse so long that they feel just lying there and collapsing is more comfortable than having to stand up. After stumbling, try to stand up with the strength of your own feet. Learn from your mistakes and quickly return to the journey.
- FAILURE IS A MEASURE OF GROWTH
Most people judge success by judging who is least likely to fail. But the most successful people on average fail seven times before succeeding. You see, the more you try, the more valuable lessons you'll learn from failure and the more you become successful.
Every time you stumble, look back on your progress. Do not be discouraged because maybe after many failures, success can come to you right afterward. It creates development and progress. That is the meaning of standing up after failures and avoiding unnecessary turns.
What helps you cope with failure better is to look ahead. When struggling with failure, always think of a bright future. We all make mistakes, but it is important that we know how to overcome them.
Failure is an indication that you need to explore other opportunities. This is sometimes true, and most success is the result of resilience. Most famous successful people have faced obstacles before becoming winners. They won because they didn't let the failures cause them to falter and lose their courage. Everyone easily fails, but the value of success is in perseverance.
Dear Venerable Master Giới Hương,
The above lecture was given by student monk Thiện Hiệp in the Practice Preaching the Dharma course on the morning of November 30, 2019. It was scored and praised by Venerable Bhikkhuni Thích Nữ Giới Hương. She chose it for the collected writings of Forty Years in the Dharma: A Life of Study and Service— Venerable Bhikkhuni Giới Hương in English and Vietnamese. It is an honor for me and the whole class. On the occasion of Teacher’s Day (November 20) and the fortieth anniversary of her studies and Dharma propagation, all of the students of the Dharma Class, Course XII, wish her good health, peace of mind, and success in doing the Buddha's work, for the sake of many beings. We are grateful that:
Ferryman lifts his passengers all the time
On the river bringing many people through
Suddenly one day looking in the water
Sees his hair is frosted white.[1]
The ferryman carries passengers to the river. He lives with the wish to propagate the Dharma to benefit sentient beings and is also the torchbearer who shows the way for the next generations. We would like to pray for our Buddhist work in the collection Forty Years in the Dharma: A Life of Study and Service to be fulfilled. We promise that we will continue to spread the Dharma in the future as ferrymen, the torchbearers for the future of Buddhism, and we will not betray the expectations of Ven. Teacher Giới Hương and other beloved teachers.
Namo Amitabha Buddha.
Vietnam Buddhist University, HCM City, November 30, 2019
Respectfully,
Preaching Dharma Class, Course XII
and Rev. Thiện Hiệp
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[1] “Ferryman Lifts His Passengers (Người Đưa Đò),” Teacher Nguyễn Khuê, http://khoavanhoc-ngonngu.edu.vn/sang-tac/nguoi-dua-do. Translated into English by Bhikkhuni Giới Hương.
Venerable Teacher Thích Nữ Giới Hương and student monk Thiện Hiệp
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